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QUIZ: This Is How You'll Be Spending Valentine's Day

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And yet another term for the singles that I date-coach: ‘pocketing’! Let’s say you've been seeing someone for a while but so far you haven’t met their friends or family - you could be in a pocketing situation.&nbsp;There are many people who don’t like to rush introducing someone new to their friends and family, when they’ve started dating someone. Fair enough! However, there comes a time when most of us start thinking we would like to meet their friends and family and also have them meet ours.On the whole I think pocketing is different to being a commitment-phobe. Those with big commitment issues rarely settle down for good and it runs through their personality like a band of unbreakable steel. With pocketing, it seems it’s more about taking time.<img src="https://storage.googleapis.com/wingman-parse-storage/73d6da4fbacfe66206675095a7857cef_blog_image_1733129849730_0.webp">Some key tips if you think you’re being pocketed:*Keep it to simple plans, but ask them to come meet your friends. Make it a relaxed scenario, just a few drinks, nothing big. You can demonstrate that meeting your friends can be a chilled event. And maybe they’ll start thinking that you, meeting their friends, could also be relaxed and fun.*If they haven’t said anything about getting together with their friends, when feeling relaxed say something like: I heard about this new bar opening up. Maybe you’d like to bring a couple friends along and we can check it out. Or some suggestion like this. Putting it out there in this manner it will feel less daunting.*I think it’s a good idea to have a timeline in your mind. For instance, if you haven’t met their friends after six months of dating then it’s time to have a conversation about it. Again, you can do it when you’re both relaxed. You could start by saying how fun it was when you got together with your friends and you wonder why you haven’t met his/her friends yet. You can take it from there with whatever response they give you.*Finally, if their friends are still off-limits now is the time to think about the fact they might be a commitment-phobe. The ball is in your court! It’s your decision if you’re happy doing ‘dating-light’ with them. Where things never deepen but are good between you. But if you want more, then it’s time to move on.Good luck and happy dating, Pam xSign up now with your wingman by downloading the&nbsp;<a href="http://www.wingmanapp.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank" style="background-color: transparent; color: rgb(228, 175, 10);">Wingman app</a>&nbsp;in the App store and Google Play store. Available in the US and UK for IOS and Android devices.<img src="https://wingman-site.s3.amazonaws.com/0dac64061aeae2baf25196dce4e3c99a_image.jpeg">Follow Dr Pam on Twitter and Instagram&nbsp;<a href="https://twitter.com/#%21/drpamspurr" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank" style="color: rgb(149, 79, 114); background-color: transparent;">@drpamspurr</a>&nbsp;and at<a href="https://drpam.co.uk/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank" style="color: blue; background-color: transparent;">&nbsp;drpam.co.uk</a>If there are any little ones in your life, Dr Pam’s first children’s story book is out now:&nbsp;<a href="http://tinyurl.com/36y3xr6n" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank" style="background-color: transparent; color: rgb(17, 85, 204);">http://tinyurl.com/36y3xr6n</a>

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Relationship expert Dr Pam Spurr writes a blog post for Wingman App about the do and don'ts of introducing a new partner to friends and family.

Our relationship expert Dr Pam Spurr (On Twitter & Instagram @drpamspurr) shares her tips on how to navigate a relationship this holiday season.

Single? Beware of Being ‘Pocketed’!

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Frequently, I hear new terms and concepts when it comes to the single world and dating. A recent concept is called ‘avalanching’ - and it has nothing to do with skiing.This can have a couple different meanings. However, in most cases it means that as we approach meaningful and significant holidays, for example, Christmas and Valentines, many singles suddenly say ‘yes’ to everyone who swipes/taps/etc., on their profile. And that includes everyone who might even be a bit substandard!This can lead to an avalanche of messaging and dates. And that’s okay if you’ve got the time and energy to work your way through this avalanche of offers.In reverse, it can also mean that you start swiping on everyone who even remotely seems to be okay.There are two main problems to avalanching –The first is emotional burnout. Many singles juggle busy lives, particularly in the run-up to Christmas, and getting involved in endless chats with high numbers of potential dates, is exhausting.Singles feel they must be on “top form” with every encounter. And with avalanching they’re pulled in so many different directions by messaging with lots of other singles. It’s easy to get dating-drain, where you are simply drained by all your efforts.<img src="https://storage.googleapis.com/wingman-parse-storage/67836b19e2bad7fdac96c3a12e9fe6be_blog_image_1731409352317_0.webp">The second potential issue is finding yourself with someone, down the line, who really isn’t up to scratch. When you’re in the middle of the avalanche, he or she seemed pretty darn good. Once, everything clears, and you’ve been seeing them for a number of meet-ups, post-avalanche, suddenly you realise you jumped in too soon.Don’t panic. You don’t have to stay with someone who looked okay with your snow-goggles on!Hopefully, reading this, will keep you aware of not throwing yourself into a dating-avalanche in the run-up to Christmas.Good luck and happy dating, Pam xSign up now with your wingman by downloading the&nbsp;<a href="http://www.wingmanapp.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank" style="color: rgb(228, 175, 10); background-color: transparent;">Wingman app</a>&nbsp;in the App store and Google Play store. Available in the US and UK for IOS and Android devices.<img src="https://wingman-site.s3.amazonaws.com/0dac64061aeae2baf25196dce4e3c99a_image.jpeg">Follow Dr Pam on Twitter and Instagram&nbsp;<a href="https://twitter.com/#%21/drpamspurr" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank" style="color: rgb(149, 79, 114); background-color: transparent;">@drpamspurr</a>&nbsp;and at<a href="https://drpam.co.uk/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank" style="color: blue; background-color: transparent;">&nbsp;drpam.co.uk</a>If there are any little ones in your life, Dr Pam’s first children’s story book is out now: <a href="http://tinyurl.com/36y3xr6n" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank" style="color: rgb(17, 85, 204);">http://tinyurl.com/36y3xr6n</a><a href="https://www.pexels.com/photo/close-up-of-frappe-drink-327131/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank" style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">Photo by Jill Wellington</a><a href="https://www.pexels.com/photo/a-group-of-people-eating-together-5810671/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank" style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">Photo by Antoni Shkraba</a>

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A blog article about the new dating term called Avalanching written by Dr Pam Spurr for Wingman Blog.

Our relationship expert Dr Pam Spurr (On Twitter & Instagram @drpamspurr) shares her advice on how to not get carried away during this festive season.

The new dating term "Avalanching" and what it means if you're single

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Oasis has been trending on and off since they announced their reunion recently. It reminded me that I had once told a date-coaching client that the person they had started seeing was a ‘definitely maybe’ kind of person. That instantly resonated with them.A ‘definitely maybe’ kind of date isn’t a commitment-phobe as such, but they probably have some personal weaknesses, anxieties or issues when it comes to aspects of dating.Some signs to watch out for include:*You suggest something for your next date but he/she (women do this too) says they need to think about it. And it’s not as if you’re suggesting a weekend break in Paris! It could just be something like bowling or dancing or visiting an exhibition, that may well take them out of their comfort zone.*They say you can meet their friends “sometime soon” but then they never suggest a time and place. Ditto, when you ask if they would like to meet your friends, they say “definitely” but then never seem able to make the time and place you suggest.Again, this might be because they feel uncomfortable mixing different groups together. Rather than the classic commitment-phobe who never has any intention of you mixing with their personal friends.<img src="https://storage.googleapis.com/wingman-parse-storage/3c280bf04801c9a57e48246e918a2891_blog_image_1728385503148_0.webp">*This hesitancy can cut right across your dating. Even when it comes to the first time it looks like you might have sex. They seem to put it off or make excuses. They may just want the timing to be perfect but it can be frustrating if you’re ready.*They’re going home for a family weekend and say things like maybe sometime you can come. Definitely don’t count on it for some time to come!Signs like these can flag up future difficulties if you can’t pin them down. As I’ve said in many of my Wingman columns, only you can decide if you want to see if this “maybe” turns out to “definitely” be your man or woman!Good luck and happy dating, Pam xSign up now with your wingman by downloading the&nbsp;<a href="http://www.wingmanapp.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank" style="color: rgb(228, 175, 10); background-color: transparent;">Wingman app</a>&nbsp;in the App store and Google Play store. Available in the US and UK for IOS and Android devices.<img src="https://wingman-site.s3.amazonaws.com/0dac64061aeae2baf25196dce4e3c99a_image.jpeg">Follow Dr Pam on Twitter and Instagram&nbsp;<a href="https://twitter.com/#%21/drpamspurr" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank" style="color: rgb(149, 79, 114); background-color: transparent;">@drpamspurr</a>&nbsp;and at<a href="https://drpam.co.uk/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank" style="color: blue; background-color: transparent;">&nbsp;drpam.co.uk</a>If there are any little ones in your life, Dr Pam’s first children’s story book is out now:&nbsp;<a href="https://tinyurl.com/36y3xr6n" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank" style="color: rgb(17, 85, 204); background-color: transparent;">http://tinyurl.com/36y3xr6n</a>

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A blog post by Dr Pam Spurr about how to deal with a partner who is undecisive.

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QUIZ: This Is How You'll Be Spending Valentine's Day

What will be your plans for February 14th?