Online Dating Tips For This Valentines Day

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Our relationship expert Dr Pam Spurr (On Twitter & Instagram @drpamspurr) shares her tips on how to date online during Cupid's week.

This year Valentine's Day will be different for those new couples who have met online during lockdown and for singles who haven’t met anyone yet. There aren’t any single-and-mingle events to go to, instead you need to use your initiative. 

I really fear this year, the legendary St. Valentine will definitely be spinning in his 1700 year-old grave! Gone are the times when you could grab a single friend, get out this V-Day week and have loads of venues to choose from.

Here are a few top tips for online dating this week 

Spread your St Valentine wings 

Definitely make the most of the app this week but at the same time look for some fun moments on social media where you might be able to be a bit flirty.

In this day and age, it’s important that flirtatiousness is fun and doesn’t cross the mark. This doesn’t stop you giving lots of ‘likes’ to someone you think looks attractive. Hopefully they’ll notice!

Get out of your comfort zone and look past your ‘usual type’ 

Maybe you’ve always stuck to the type of person you think you’re most attracted to – they have to have a certain type of job or a certain look. Give it a go, dump your type for this week and keep an open mind about having a little flirt - or checking out the profiles - of people who are outside of your usual type.

Don’t despair 

If nothing happens in the run-up to Valentine’s Day, don’t worry about it! Make sure you work that ‘onwards and upwards’ vibe. Maintaining a positive dating attitude definitely helps when you come across people in the future. As I’ve said in many columns, people can ‘read’ your vibe quite easily – whether it’s negative, positive or somewhere in between.

And if you have someone new in your life? Here are a few more tips 

Show them you’ve been paying attention to your online and FaceTime chats - Send them their favourite chocolate bars that they’ve mentioned in your chats. Or their favourite tipple or something that reflects their birth year – like the DVD of a film from that time. These small but thoughtful gifts make a difference to a very new dating situation! 

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