Labels and How To Avoid Them
You run out to grab some lunch and as it’s a sunny day, you decide to eat outside. While you’re enjoying your food, somebody you’ve never met, sits next to you and you both exchange a light-hearted conversation about which sandwich is the best, before agreeing to disagree and feeling like you should meet up again. At this point you don’t know much about each other but still had a great conversation.
No judgement, no preconceived notions about who they are, just a good old conversation.
Whether you know it or not, your wish list of who you want to meet, could be getting in the way of you finding someone great. Equally steering clear of people defined by your insecurities e.g. they’re too hot or too clever for you, can stop you from meeting someone out of your comfort zone.
I get it, fear of rejection is tough. Defining yourself by how you think you’re perceived by others is something we all need to resist doing.
Here are the popular misconceptions we have when it comes to getting out of our comfort zone:
1. Too old to date
If you’ve just come out a long - term relationship, you may feel like the dating scene has changed so much that you don’t know where to start. Especially online. No matter what age you are, you deserve love. Whether you thought you found the one or lost the one, you deserve to meet someone again, even for the first time.
2. Too pretty/ Too handsome for me
Truthfully, everyone at some point in their life have come across someone they think is way out of their league. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder my friends. Sure a 6 pack may be a requirement of being hot or having a toned body is the ideal body type for some. SOME being the operative word here. Contrary to popular belief, there are people out there who don’t conform to that definition. Some people prefer emotional gratification over physical demand so don’t let how you look, define your worth.
3. Too intelligent compared to me
Even if the last thing you read is the contents of a cereal box, you can still hold a conversation with someone who is way into reading more than you. Think of it as an opportunity to learn from each other. They might be good with books but you could be just as talented in other areas, whether it’s cooking, gaming or how to win at UNO.
4. They’re too rich for me
Their lifestyle may seem extravagant and one that you can never afford but that doesn’t have to stop you from seeing if there’s a connection. You may even be surprised by how they ended up where they are. There’s more to them than their money, see if you can have a conversation with the person and not the price tags.
5. Too confident for me
If you’re shy or sensitive, you many wonder what could they possibly see in you? This is the classic case of opposites attract. Often times than not, there will be situations where they’re not as confident and your sensitive side can prove to be a comforting presence. Likewise, in situations where you’re anxious, they can make you more confident.
Everyday, whether you can see it or not, unlikely relationships are overcoming the odds and happily existing so why can’t it be yours?
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