How To Strengthen Your Relationship During The Festive Period.
The start of December marks the beginning of the festive period which can be an unruly period for most couples. However you need to focus on what’s important now - the two of you. You may have lost sight of putting your relationship first over Christmas but you can change that now. Carve out some quality time together and stick these reminders in your diaries today.
Rekindle fonder memories
The freshest memories you have are of a fraught Christmas period. Ask your partner to spend a moment going through your wedding album or photos from a happy holiday to re-establish warm and loving memories. Relationship research shows that couples who regularly use this technique are happier.
It's important that the recriminations and finger-pointing stops now. It's far more constructive for you both to hold your hands up to any less-than-good behaviour over the last few weeks. Saying a genuine “sorry” is one of the most healing steps to take. Even if they don't return the gesture it’s well worth you making it.
A kindness a day keeps divorce away
Think today what you can do for your partner rather than getting stuck in always thinking, "what can they do for me?" What small gesture would make their day easier or pleasant? Then do it! Small kindnesses go far to healing difficulties.
An affectionate hug, a kiss goodnight and a little flirting can help heal unhappy or angry feelings. Not only does touch help the release of oxytocin, the bonding hormone, but it can build bridges between two unhappy partners.
Each day take a moment, close your eyes and visualise your relationship as a fragile plant. Just like that beautiful but endangered plant, your relationship needs tender care. Research shows that taking a few moments of such reflective thought helps to re-anchor a couple to their goal to improve things.
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