Fight the Urge for Too Much, Too Soon!

One issue I deal with regularly as a date coach is the ‘too much, too soon syndrome’ where a single wants everything to happen super quickly. This isn’t just older singles but happens with all sorts of ages and personalities.

Here are the key features of the ‘too much, too soon syndrome’:

*You’ve just met (online or in person) but all you can think about is them.

*You start liking everything of theirs on social media.

*You get twitchy if they don’t reply to messages straight away.

*You judge a new relationship and how many messages you to share.

*You want to see them as soon as possible if you met online.

*You start divulges really personal things very quickly.

*You feel upset if they don’t seem to share your desire to get this relationship going

*You want to meet their families/friends as soon as possible.

*Likewise, you want them to meet your friends and family asap.

*You worry that it’s all over if you haven’t heard that from them for a day or two.

*You feel sick in the pit of the stomach if they don’t want to see you, that soon, when you’ve suggested your next meet up.

*You start thinking about things like moving in with them when you’ve only known them a couple weeks.

I think you can get the picture from these sorts of feelings. This ‘syndrome’ can lead to destroying a new relationship. It feels too much to the other person. You can come across as demanding and insecure.

Here are a few key tips if these points I’ve listed – or similar – describe your feelings and behaviour:

1) Make sure your investing time in yourself and your self-worth. Talk yourself up that you are a catch and they won’t run away from you just because you don’t message all the time.