Don’t let Valentine’s Day spoil your dating!
Our relationship expert Dr Pam Spurr (On Twitter & Instagram @drpamspurr) shares her tips on how to navigate the day of love with your new relationship.
Valentine's Day is notoriously tricky waters to navigate when people have only recently met and had a few dates. One survey found that singles who had their eye on someone, didn’t know which way to play it – make a big fuss or ignore it.
I’m certain St. Valentine would be pleased to know that in this day and age there are so many ways to meet and fall in love with someone, like on the Wingman app.
He’d be rooting for you, from his 1700 year-old grave, to go with your gut instinct about that new person and how to celebrate his day of love.
A few tips for navigating February 14th when you’ve only recently met:
*Have you two come to the stage of talking about your personal feelings? Do you know much about things like their take on relationships, for instance, are they a serial monogamist who takes relationship seriously or have they never really been in a serious relationship? This could guide how you handle Valentine’s.
*Where do you stand on these things? Do you love a bit of romance? Do you like to feel loved up on Valentine’s? Your feelings also count so think about finding a common ground on whether you send a card, a gift, or suggest getting together on the day.
*Does it seem like you two are now only chatting to each other online or on an app? Or now that you’re seeing each other, are you exclusive? This should help you decide how to handle Valentine’s.
*Have they already made romantic gestures towards you? Or have you to them? How did these go down? This can also help guide you.
*Then there’s the old-fashioned way – sound them out! You can casually say something like: have you ever celebrated Valentine’s? Or: how do you feel about Valentine’s, should we do something or leave it?
*Ultimately, if one of you is a massive romantic and the other couldn’t care a jot, think about the friction this might cause as you get more serious about each other. Trust me, if one of you is hurt by a lack of romance or one of you feeling it’s being shoved down their throat, can create a lot of tension in the relationship.
Good luck and happy dating! x
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