Springtime is a great time to date
Our relationship expert Dr Pam Spurr (On Twitter & Instagram @drpamspurr) shares her top tips for dating this spring.
Spring has arrived and it's a really great time of year to put the effort into dating. Many singles ‘hibernate’ over the winter but now it's time to feel good about yourself and let the sunny weather help give you a boost. Sunshine not only gives you vitamin D, but it boosts your endorphins – those lovely feel-good brain chemicals that help you sparkle.
Here are top tips to try now:
* Beware of talking yourself down when you're heading out either to a function, where you might meet other singles, or to a date that you've arranged - maybe via the Wingman app.
Focus on your three top qualities - like the things your friends say about you that make you a great friend. Focusing on your positives when you rock up to the date, means you give a positive vibe out.
* Dig deep and try facing a dating-fear of yours. Dating-fears are very common – for example, feeling you don't know how to make good conversation like the singles you're competing with. Or feeling you don't have any funny anecdotes for that first date. Even things like believing that you look unattractive when you eat. Dating-fears are very common.
Let's take the fear that you're not very good at conversation. Think about the last film you watched, or music you enjoyed, or TV drama you thought was fantastic. Think about what you might say about them to the person you're meeting.
Arm yourself with a couple talking points like that. Then remind yourself you don't have to be the best conversationalist but interested in what they say plus enthusiastic about what you have to say.
* Definitely try some new places. Most of us get stuck in going to the same old pub or cafe or coffee shop. Go to the same places and you see the same faces. Make a list of new places and get some friends to go along with you to check them out.
* Update your dating profile - if something noteworthy happens to you or you've got a new photo that you think shows you in a good light, then get it up on your profile. Make your dating profile dynamic, rather than static, sitting there the same for months on end without any changes.
Here’s to spring giving you a spring in your step for some fun dating.
Good luck and happy dating x
Sign up now with your wingman by downloading the Wingman app in the App store and Google Play store. Available in the US and UK for IOS and Android devices.
Follow Dr Pam on Twitter @drpamspurr and at drpam.co.uk
If there are any little ones in your life, Dr Pam’s first children’s story book is out now: http://tinyurl.com/36y3xr6n
