Put Some Spring in Your Dating Step!
Our relationship expert Dr Pam Spurr (On Twitter & Instagram @drpamspurr) shares her tips on how to step up your dating game this spring.
Spring is here and it's the perfect time to make yourself more ‘date-able’. When you feel good about yourself that's when you are most likely to attract someone worthy into your life.
Here are five key tips to try this spring:
1/ Face a Fear - Fears hold us back in many ways and especially in dating. We fear showing ourselves up or saying the wrong thing when we meet someone new.
You can boost your confidence by tackling something that causes you fear or anxiety. Maybe you don't like speaking at work so this is the perfect time to volunteer to do a presentation. Practise makes perfect so keep practising that presentation until you feel confident about it.
Choose an outfit for the big day that makes you feel good about yourself and go for it. Enjoy the moment after accomplishing this task and facing this fear!
2/ Explore New Places - we get stuck in a rut and tend to go to the same places all the time. And I don't even mean your “hunting ground” as a single. Even with friends we eat at the same restaurants go to the same bars, etc. Plan to try some new places with your friends. Get out of your comfort zone and relish the new places.
3/ Face a Fresh Challenge - you can inject some sparkle into your life by setting yourself a new challenge. We get so settled in our routines that this can liven things up.
It’s quite literally in our genes to thrive on challenges after all ancient people faced challenges every day that they rose to. You could learn a new skill, a new craft, try learning a new language, etc. All of these things wake up your brain giving you more confidence.
4/ Dump the Little Devil on Your Shoulder - we all have an inner voice and in fortunately it often is a little devil. It tells you that you're not good enough or constantly remind you about your so-called failures.
Give yourself a new lease of confidence by recognising it and transforming it into a kinder little angel on your shoulder. An angel that tells you, that you are doing OK. That reassures you that everyone makes mistakes and that we can learn from them.
5/ Recharge Your Relationships - getting ready for lots of dating this spring can be helped by recharging your relationships with friends and family. Making the most of your relationships helps you be dating-ready. Regularly check in with friends and family. Don't let your life be all about work, chores, more work and more chores. Suggest some lovely meet ups to spend quality time with them. Having good solid relationships generally makes it easier to have good solid dating, where you make good choices.
Here’s to a new spring in your step as a springboard for some fun dating.
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If there are any little ones in your life, Dr Pam’s first children’s story book is out now: http://tinyurl.com/36y3xr6
